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How Clutter Affects Your Love Life
by Stephanie Roberts
Clutter in any area of your home is a sign of stuck, stagnant energy.
The more clutter you have, the more sluggish the energy becomes. When
the areas of your home associated with romance are cluttered and untidy,
your love life is affected as well. From a feng shui perspective, the
three places in your home that have the strongest impact on your love
life are your bedroom, the Relationship Area (I'll tell you how to find
that in a moment), and the space around your front door. Here's why:
Clutter in the Bedroom
Your bedroom is strongly associated with the intimacy of a romantic relationship.
Clutter in the bedroom can contribute to fatigue, irritability, lack of
focus, and difficulty sleeping. When you and your partner are tired, cranky,
and distracted much of the time, your relationship is probably not getting
the quality attention it needs and deserves. If you are single, a cluttered
bedroom will make it more difficult for a new relationship to get started;
all that stuck energy literally makes it hard for you to meet someone
new. And that's before a potential partner gets a good look at the mess
you are living in! Decluttering your bedroom is an excellent way to shake
all that stuck energy loose and make room for a new relationship.
Clutter in the Relationship Area
The feng shui "ba gua" is a map of the energetic influences
of a space. Some people use the ba gua according to the compass directions;
with this method, the Relationship Area is the southwest sector of your
home or of a specific room. Western feng shui orients the ba gua to the
entry to a space; with this method, the Relationship area is the back
right corner of the home or of a room. Instead of wondering which method
to use, why not check out them both? Look around the SW sector of your
home, and in the SW part of your bedroom. Now check the room(s) in the
right-rear corner of the house, and look at the far right corner of your
bedroom. Like a wet blanket thrown over a fire, clutter in any of these
areas can smother the passion and intensity in your romance. You aren't
much fun to be around when you feel depressed, indecisive, ineffective,
creatively blocked, overly emotional, or too lethargic to care - which
is how you are likely to feel about your love life if your Relationship
areas are filled with clutter! Find these areas within your home and bedroom,
and make them your top priority for clutter-clearing attention.
Clutter Around the Front Door
The third major factor is the area around your front door. The main entrance
is called "the Mouth of Chi" in feng shui, because it has the
strongest influence on how chi (energy) flows into your home. You can't
nourish your body without opening your mouth to eat. Similarly, your home
can't benefit from fresh, vital chi if the front door is blocked with
clutter or rarely used. Go take a look at your front door. Does it open
all the way, or have you stored things behind it? Is your foyer or front
hall clean and welcoming, or is it filled with stuff you haven't gotten
around to putting away or getting rid of? When was the last time you used
your front door?
The front door is associated with opportunities. If you've been trying
to meet someone new without success, getting rid of clutter around the
front door and using that entry more often are a good way to shift that
stuck energy. You may find that opportunities to connect with someone
new come to your attention more often, and that you are more likely to
take advantage of them instead of feeling so tired you'd rather stay home.
If you are in a relationship, a cluttered front entry can contribute to
feelings of boredom and being stuck in a rut with each other. Opening
the front door more widely and frequently is a good way to breathe new
life into a less-than-exciting romantic connection.
When you have cleared the clutter from important areas of your home, you
should see a shift for the better in your love life. For those who are
single and looking for love, making space in your home literally creates
space for a new relationship to come in. That new partner may manifest
for you right away, or it may take time for the energy shifts to result
in a new connection. Either way, the space you create by getting rid of
clutter will help to lift your spirits, improve your mood, and increase
your energy -- which will make you more enjoyable and attractive to everyone
you meet, old friends and new.
If you are in a partnership that has not been going well, clutter-clearing
alone is unlikely to solve all of your relationship problems. However,
by clearing out key spaces you create mental and emotional space for greater
clarity about the issues and behavior patterns that contribute to difficulties
in your marriage or partnership. With greater clarity comes a greater
capacity for wise decisions and appropriate action. You may even find
that releasing clutter results in releasing a foundering relationship
as well. Accept that it's all for the best, and focus on the new space
you have created - in your heart as well as in your home - for a new and
better love to come along.
Stephanie Roberts is the author of the "Clutter-Free Forever!"
Home Coaching Program and the "Fast Feng Shui" book series.
She invites you to visit her websites at www.clutterfreeforever.com
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